It’s almost inevitable. You come across a language learner’s blog and see how great they are at their chosen language. You suddenly realise that they have only been studying half the time you have but are way more advanced than you. Cue self-doubt. ‘Why aren’t I that good?’ ‘What am I doing wrong?’
Stop it. Just stop!
We are all guilty of comparing ourselves with others, but we need to realise it isn’t helpful or productive.
The first is step is catching yourself before you begin a spiral of doubt. Realise that you and that person are not the same. This is a good thing. Each of us have different situations, passions, goals and lives. You may only study the language casually from your home in Switzerland while the other person is doing a degree in Korean and lives in Seoul. Apples and oranges.
Rather than comparing yourself to others, redirect your comparisons to yourself. See how far you have come in the last month, six months, year or five years. Find your strengths and celebrate them. Turn it around into a self-reflection on how well you have done and what you can do to make the next month or year even better. Be proud of yourself and the progressyou’ve made.
So the next time you start comparing yourself to another, whether in the course of your language studies or in life, stop yourself and turn it around into something positive!