I recently read an interesting post on A Cup of Jo on Paying for your Parents.
Filial piety is a key value in Confucian and Korean culture. Known as 효 in Korean, it means to honour and serve one’s parents and ancestors, and often involves monetary support.
Jo’s post touches on the fact that this idea often received with shock by those from other cultures, and I know it has been discussed in depth in my relationship.
While I can understand the thought and tradition behind the practice, I was initially quite surprised when it was first explained to me by my partner. My opinion was formed from my own family’s attitudes and Australian culture, where generally you work, save and contribute to your superannuation to ensure you are financially independent after you retire and so that you don’t place undue pressure on your children. Conversely my partner believes that since parents give up so much for their children it is the child’s responsibility to reciprocate this, often including monetary support. It’s also common for Korean’s to present their first pay check to their parents.
Although our beliefs still differ somewhat, I repect and support my partners decisions regarding his duties toward his parents 100%. I can definitely get behind gifts and small tokens of appreciation for parents. ^^
How about you? Is your culture similar to this? Are you planning to help your parents financially? I’d definitely be interested in other opinions 🙂
If you’re interested in reading more about filial piety in Korean culture, this article was also quite interesting~